Therapy for People Pleasing

People pleasing takes a lot of effort.

In life, people-pleasing is more important than YOU.

Are you the friendliest, most agreeable, and supportive person in your circle? You always say yes and are the one that others can always count on.

Even if it means not getting your things done, you spend most of your time doing things for others.

Do you make a lot of apologies – even for something not directly related to you?

If this sounds all too familiar, you may be a people pleaser.

Continuous efforts at people-pleasing come at a cost.

Making others happy feels good. Yet, those good feelings never last. Why? Because when you are a people pleaser, there is no endpoint. There is always something else you could be doing – for someone else.

People pleasers are afraid of being rejected or disappointing others. So, they self-sacrifice and are generous with their time. They are perfectionists with harsh self-judgment, deep-seated unworthiness, and relationship issues.

They don’t know how to say no, be assertive or set boundaries. And their sense of self is based on achievement and validation from others.

People pleasing, also known as ‘fawning,’ typically leads to chronic stress, unhealthy behaviors, and toxic relationships. People pleasers can become burned out, stressed out, and feel like they have lost their voice and don’t know who they are or what they truly want from life.

Let’s change the rules.

There are theoretical frameworks supporting the work we’ll do. Using cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and acceptance commitment therapy (ACT) as our framework, we will work on restructuring any biased or unhelpful ways of thinking that keep blocking you from moving toward the life you want.

We will identify behaviors that move you away from the life you deserve and teach you how to avoid those unhelpful thoughts.

You will learn specific strategies, tools, and mind-body techniques to help you learn better ways of coping with people-pleasing and perfectionism, thereby relieving symptoms and becoming more effective and resilient in your life.

I will assist with developing coping and problem-solving skills and teach you how to work through the emotions of anxiety, stress, burnout, and relationship issues that come along with perfectionism and people-pleasing.

You don’t have to do this alone.

Identifying and clarifying your values and beliefs and acting according to them are the first steps toward a fulfilled and meaningful life.

You can learn to create a strong sense of self through self-compassion and personal reflection.

People pleasing and perfectionism are common patterns of difficult-to-treat behaviors and come with their unique challenges. Helping you meet those challenges is why I offer a free 20-minute consultation: You can tell me your story, and I will let you know how I can help.